Clarify Your Vision By Using These Self-Evaluation Guidelines
Sometimes we know that we want something different but we don’t know where to start. Our dreams are reflected in a muddy puddle that seems to swirl and distort while reflecting not only our dreams but those of who stand beside us and also stare in. With all the commotion, it’s no wonder the vision isn’t crystal clear. How can we see better? Let’s apply some filters and lenses to truly catch a glimpse of what we can already almost see.
What Do You Enjoy?
This is the most important thing and we have to be able to tell the truth. We can only aspire to better peace of mind and security by applying ourselves in something that we enjoy. It might seem like a neat trick to do some uninspiring task for a few hours each day but have you considered what you are missing out on? Have you thought about doing this for the rest of your life? What kind of life do you want? So whatever we have to do to get by is one thing, but when it comes to building your personal vision you need to think about yourself.
What Are You Confident With?
Confidence is a vital ingredient when it comes to making your presence felt. If you want to light up the conversation then you need to carry an inner conviction that is noticeable. What are you good at and what have you been doing for a long time that you enjoy? Your skill, knack, talent, attitude, and anything you can do well are the building blocks for a new future that you can walk with your head held high in. Confidence doesn’t mean arrogance where we blind ourselves to all but our own ability and point of view or complacency where we don’t take the time to do a proper job, it means a conscious and unconscious knowing that you can do something to standard.
What Are You Anxious About?
As Worf from Star Trek once said, “Only fools have no fear”, it will be the case for you that there are things in the world that you just don’t feel comfortable with. It’s okay, the chances are that in your experience particular circumstances don’t go well or to be expected for you. This is true for all of us if we are honest, and this doesn’t make you less of a person or weaker than others who can do these things. We’re all different and that means we have to be accepting of the differences we notice in ourselves. For better or for worse, we just don’t want to be responsible for or involved in certain things. As long as we can be honest about that and generate a situation where we can limit our energy in those unwanted directions without negative effects then it will create a firmer position to build on.
How Do These Things Limit You?
You now have to look at the things we talked about from the other point of view. Your defining aspects have created a particular person that is so far unable to see properly in the puddle. The water is muddy, remember? We have to now stop making excuses and look at why what we enjoy is keeping us from progress, why is our confidence reducing our potential, and why is our anxiety making life more difficult? This is the part where you have to see these things from an outside perspective and apply an adult and mature pruning of all the thoughts that create these feelings which are based on self-limiting and baseless ideas.
How Will You Change This?
We would all love to be able to snap our fingers and make instant changes to our situation, our psychology, our habits, and everything else. This isn’t how it works and so we have to plan and take the steps to gradual change. The process of change requires mental effort and lifestyle effort at the same time. Learning new skills is perhaps the best way of implementing change. This is because as we learn new information that we find valuable, we use it to base our decisions and actions on. The more we learn, the more impetus we have for making conscious and unconscious changes in our behaviour and thinking. So let’s go, life is a continual education.
Rowan Blair Colver is the editor of Alternative Fruit